KGirl - letting the past go

[KGirl]

Ha - Mozza, something that makes me feel slightly better is the friends who know us both who say "K... I don't know what he's thinking. It's not like he'll walk into a bar and pick someone up to sleep with! He's going to come back because no one will sleep with him and you were the only one!" So yes, I do think a big part of this is that I was the only person he ever slept with (well as far as I know... who knows now, I guess) and he felt like he "missed out." Then why marry someone? I don't know.

I think this was in a New Girl episode I just watched, but the phrase "sometimes bad things just happen to good people" came up several times. It IS kind of like wondering why you get laid off, or why there is a natural disaster, or an accident... but in some ways it isn't because our S made a conscious decision to leave us. There must be something that lead to that decision. Even if is somewhat arbitrary or unwarranted. Sigh.

Yes, help with wording would be helpful! I'm considering suggesting "What about taking out a home equity loan or a personal loan from a bank?" and then noting "I understand there are things you'd rather not do, but unfortunately both of us will have to/have already had to do things we haven't needed to do." I could be asking for so much more. I could be asking for $ for half of his car since we shared a car (he bought it before we were M so it'd be a tough argument but I still could note that I Relied on that for transportation). I could have fought him for the cat. I did not. I think he owes me at least this much - an upfront payment for the house equity. I guess this is anonymous so I can be more specific: it's about $15,000, and he makes about $50,000/year, so it would be tough. But supposedly he already has half of it. He's also maxed out his Roth IRA every year since 2009 so the money does exist, just not in an ideal form. But again.. you buy a house with someone and dump them a year later, what do you expect if you want to keep the house?