Quote: As per the rules, I cannot discuss this with her until she is ready. But it is something I have been thinking about.
Huh?
Is this the rule you were thinking about?
20. All questions about marriage should be put on hold, until your spouse wants to talk about it (which may be a while) so this takes patient on your behalf.
This rule was to encourage newcomers who want to flood their WAS with a zillion relationship questions about their M to hold back and wait for her to be ready to discuss things. It was not intended to include important information about your children and where they will be moving. As a father you have as much right to your children as the mother does. That includes knowing when & where she plans to move with them.
Therefore, get the information you need as calmly as possible. I think you need to protect you finances, property, college funds, and any other accounts from her being able to get her hands on it, and......don't be free in what you tell her in advance. I think you really need legal representation.
Btw, do you live in a "no fault" divorce state?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
