21 Years - Walkaway Wife - Please Help!

[MrBond]

Seriously? I can't believe you think her actions are a result of a MLC. It's almost like you can't believe that her actions were a result of things that you did and that it's all her. Almost seems like you're shifting blame and responsibility from you to her. Like your stance about not wanting to pay taxes. You disagree with it, so you think it's everyone else's fault but your own.

These are the reasons why your M failed:

"I refused to go to AA"
"looked into marriage counselors but got frustrated trying to find one and never picked one"
"and went to church with her a couple times but she wanted to start going to a catholic church, but I refused."
"She was very embarrassed being in the town we lived in, my conviction was on the front page of most newspapers and she felt people were talking. That stuff never bothered me."

This all seems very self centered to me. That's why she left.

I know you said that you're going to AA which is great, BUT you haven't changed your attitude.