Just curious ... how is her memory? In my case .. when she would go off on something like this ... I would have little to no reply or response, listen validate ... and typically she would forget about it by the next day. Sometimes its better for your own sanity to just disregard the things you know she is doing to provoke a fight ... side step and use her own momentum against her.
Pretty sure she'll remember this... It came right after her IC session, so I assume during her IC she talked about how she isn't getting to spend as much time with the kids these days and how this is hurting her relationship with them... Of course, in the session I am SURE she blamed me for limiting her time with the kids instead of looking at her own behaviors that are causing her to spend less time with the kids.
I plan to go with her request for a week or so and see what happens. If we start to have problems in the morning or the kids start to have problems at school (work habits or behavior), then I will address my concerns with her about the bedtime routine.
I'm still so angry about this -- especially since I can tell from her attitude about it that she is blaming me for limited time with the kids instead of changing her own behavior. I would certainly love to be able to share more of the parenting with her, but we have to do it in the best interest of the kids and not around our own individual and selfish schedules. Honestly, I've been doing 95% of the parenting work since the last week of October and I am completely exhausted. But trying to have a rational conversation about this with her right now is just out of the question.
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
