This was written a few days ago after stumbling across MB. after thought I agree, the bomb method just doesn't seem to add up. Why would I want to shame my wife back to me? I wouldn't. Also she is a fighter. She will lash out when her back is against the wall. He has nothing to lose as already divorced apart from relationship with his kids and family which from what I've read is already terrible as they already believe he is having an affair with my wife. I've also read on another site of 2 suicides due to being outed for an affair. I don't want that on my conscience. I don't think I need to force her down the rabbit hole any further. She has done a good enough job of that herself. This is for her to sort out. She has got herself into this situation. She is an intelligent woman and will know exactly what is at stake here. I will leave her to make her own choices about what she wants to do. She is the one who will have to live with the consequences of those choices.
My councillor asked me do I want my wife back and honestly I couldn't answer. Do I want my wife back of about 5 years ago? Absolutely. Has too much damage been done by both of us to each other in that time period? I don't know, maybe The idea of wanting her back is very strong. The realities of that are that I wasn't and haven't been happy for along time either. day to day interaction we are still get on very well but the closeness we had left as we both stopped working on the marriage. Being apart will give us both time to reflect. I'm working on me. I have changed for the better these last 6 months. My wife even said last week why couldn't I have been this man years ago. These are permanent fixtures now. I took my life, my wife and D8 for granted. Never again will I make those mistakes. Last 2 days have been easier and I have realised I will be ok.
Am I a man only a fool would leave? I think im getting there.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
