As vanilla said, what your H said only has to affect your relationship with your friend if you choose to let it. H could be saying all sorts of things to all sorts of people, testing how it feels for him, testing what gets him a particularly reaction or equally his mood may be as variable as our weather.
I wonder whether we spend so long thinking about what our WAS' are thinking and doing and what they want that sometimes we dont take long enough to really think about we want.
Answers can be hard so maybe start with what the questions really are for you right now.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
