what Sandi said^^^ and mega condolences on the miscarriage. Ouch
One thing to note Crimson, about the past and our visions of it. I have said the focus ought to be "from this day forward" and I meant it.
But I have also had some regrets that I wish had been more resolved or addressed before totally recommitting. When h was at his "ripest" for feedback or maybe most motivated, I wish we had explored ENOUGH of the past
and how we both viewed it for me to feel safer in knowing he would Not repeat the behaviors. I mean, he SAID certain things I needed to hear, but now, years later, there seems to be a bit of revising going on.
Does it matter? I think it
ONLY matters if it means a repeat of behaviors (otherwise, it's just incredibly, deeply annoying).
Not sure what else to say there, so that's that. For now.
PS
How do you feel your wife views the possibility of another child, with you? Have you two discussed the SSRI and fertility issues?
Do you feel "blamed" or in any way, lessened in her eyes?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
