My wife and I have been married for 14.5 years and together for almost 17. I found out about 3 weeks ago that she was having an affir for the past four months. At first she told me she wanted a divorce but now she said she want a seperation. She tells me she isn't in love with me anymore and she hasn't been for about 10 years now. I thought she was the happiest person I knew. She also told me that this OM isnt going anywhere. She stays at the house about 3 nights a week which is very confusing for our children. We have 4 wonderful children and they cry themselves to sleep everynight she isn't home. I am willing to forgive her for this and forget and move on but she is being very mean about it coming home with marks on her neck and wearing his jackets. She tells me she wants to work on it but I really cant see how she does when she continues to go over to his house every other night and most weekends. All I can do right now is be there for my children and hold them while they cry for her and when they call her she hangs up on them. If anybody has any advice on whay I can do I would really appreciate it. To be completly honest I have tried everything I can think of and everyting my coach has told me and (I know it didn't get broke over night and it can't be fixed overnight)nothing seems to be helping. I'm at my witts end.
