I have gotten legal advice. I'm pretty much screwed if she goes that route and gets the max amount. I make 3X what she does and the alimony laws here are messed up.
I am kind of torn though. Do I: 1) Agree to move close to her and work with her with the kids. She works nights, so the kids would probably sleep at my place. This is nice because I still get to be involved in the boys daily lives. I wonder if she would not take me to the cleaners as far as finances go if I did agree to help out. Or, 2) Lawyer up, sue to be the custodial parent and let the chips fall where they may. She'd have to get a job during the day and put the kids in child care. Something she said she'd never do. But with this "fog" she's in, I am not so sure now. This could also help me because she would not be around the OM on a daily basis.
I already told her that I wasn't sure if I could live near her if we separate. And most people tell me that my chances of getting custody are slim to none. This is part of the reason I started the log about her behavior towards the kids.
