I have to get this apartment for me. I have to. He wants to help with costs and me moving in, and I am going to let him. I still won't file, but I won't stay in this stuck place either. I need physical distance just as much as he does right now. Does that seem dumb to you guys? Hugs, Myrrh
I don't think it seems dumb at all -- doesn't it make sense to construct the sitch so that you can do your best DB'ing? If physical distance is an important component of that then why not do it?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
No, it doesn't sound dumb. Look out!! Cause here comes a whack!!!! Have you listened to us? Stay away from Dustin, close your mouth about any R talk and call a counselor. As Sage told you before, you have the tools to Db. Now get the tools to handle your anger.
I'm done with the 2x4. Honestly, everything you have done has been done by other people on the bb. We all get emotionally charged and revert back to the familiar. Dbing won't work if we don't put a space, stop sign whatever in the way so that we have to make lasting changes.
You are a bright, loving person. Please call the C right now.
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
I'm really sorry to hear about what had happened. It is in the past and I like your new attitude about focusing on the future.
I really like how you have identified things you want to work on about yourself. Coincidentally, it seems to me these are all things that contribute to your R with Dustin. I agree with everyone here that focusing on these issues while detaching from Dustin will only be beneficialy to you and your R with him in the long term.
It is a long and difficult road to get there but ultimately it will be best for the both of you, it seems you know that too otherwise you wouldn't have identified them. It is definitely scary to feel that you have backtracked and are back to where you were before but that is impossible, you have grown since then.
Take the time to focus on yourself and make the changes you want and need to make for yourself. He obviously still cares for you and the little guy, you will always have that connection and by that will always have the possibility of mending this. Someone suggested to let him have his cave time, this is so important for men especially when confronted with something emotional.
He called me to find out what was up at the apartment, was very kind, etc about listening to me describe it, and we talked about expenses.
He had another call, so he said he would call later and we could figure out exactly what we needed to do. I was very calm and pleasant. I can do this. Breathe. You know what? I just realized I haven't eaten today and I'm still not hungry. Better get something before I shrink away to nothing. Hugs to all, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
Through all this pain in the butt interaction he and I have had today about this apt, there has been no mention of lawyers...guess he didn't have time to find stuff out today. Weird. Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
It really bums me out to have to talk to him right now. My stomach hurts, I get tense, my palms sweat. And through it all he sounds so happy. So freaking happy. I can't wait to be settled in my own place so I can forget about him and my sitch for awhile. I won't have to see him at all except for legal proceedings because he is going to pick Rhane up from daycare and drop him off in the morning, then I will pick him up at night - so absolutely no face-to-face contact after we get this whole cleaning up and moving thing out of the way. I guess that's okay. I guess it will have to be. I kind of feel right now like someone stepped on me. Yuck, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.
