Hi Sandi. This sounds spot on. But is there any chance WW ever goes back to her old friends? As those are the ones that would give her encouragement in a healthy way. Her current friends are all bar friends that don't know me or us. I really think any chance for her to ever want to work on our marriage would only happen if she was to pull away from her new friends and spend time with the friends and family that knew and love sher before she started this new life and cut everyone else out.
Usually the new friends drop by the wayside. When she R with you, then she will probably rejoin her old friends. Unless, there was permanent damage done when she split from the friendship, or they wrote her off. This is one of the reasons I suggest the LBS not talk too much about the stitch to friends/family, b/c they will take sides. Part of keeping the road paved smooth for the WAS to be around them once you've reconciled.
On another subject, your W made a comment about all those books you've been reading. Does she see you reading the books?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
