Mighty - my being where I am, like Rome, wasn't built in a day!!
Lord I was a mess for the longest time. We have to lean into God hard during these times, to give us the strength to see it through.
What I am doing now I am choosing to do because of the person I want to be. Truly your xh will be a mess at some point, and not have a clue as to how he got there . . . .
I have no expectations of my xh, just hope he can finally get his sh*t together for his children's sake, and his own.