Seperated, she is with someone - I'm desperate (2)

[vdubber]

Uggghhh....you would think I hadn't just read for several hours yesterday about how H/W know how to push each others buttons.

Kids are out of school tomorrow and since we exchange on Monday nights I will be working from home as their daycare is also closed. So W sends text late tonight asking if I have kids tomorrow as if not she has sitter lined up. She closed with I just want to know where my kids will be.

She has done this many time...referring to them as "my" kids which really bothers me as they are "our" kids.

Lesson learned to force myself to wait to respond...I mean I just read about all of this and it's the advice I've already been given here.

My response sent was that yes I have my kids during day, please pick up after work.

I know better but said "my"....I could have got the point across by saying "our" but no I had to respond angrily. So of course I get the response of don't be an a**hole.

So it's 3am and i got that going for me. I have limited interactions and i just blew another one and reinforced how she already seems to feel about me. I hope I can learn to STFU and keep my emotions in check next time.