Ganb8te 5 - Escaping the abyss

[gan]

Find all my threads here. Sincere thanks for following along.

In last season’s cliffhanger I put a question out to my DB friends:

So, DB buddies. Right now I feel like I am only applying a fraction of DR, namely LRT. I've stopped the chase (pretty much went cold turkey since June 2014), I've got a life (see above) and I am waiting and watching.

Last time I met up with H was 22 Dec. Last contact was 6 Jan (I text him for his b'day, he replied a week later, I didn't reply). We seem to be in a pattern of meetups ~2-3 months with very little communication in between. When we meet, he seems ambivalent and not detached (e.g. he was frustrated by my GAL plans), light convo is difficult for him. I don’t know if there is OW. Not once has he mentioned D (we can file early May).

The rule is do what works. So the $million question is: is this not working or is it not long enough? Do I need to experiment with a different approach? If so, what? I could use an outsiders perspective…

…which lead to some great input from Jim, Barrybran, Lisa, V, Calibri, Toots and Gg…and left me mulling over these questions:

1. Am I getting close to being done with waiting around?
2. Am I ready to hear the cold truth?
3. Would OW change my feelings on what to do?
4. Is current strategy not working? For who is it not working? Not working to what end?