Job, thank you for your insight - I am cautious about this. I truly feel that it would be emotionally beneficial for all parties to be able to move forward into some sort of relationship. He was a truly great father until MLC hit.
All I have agreed to do is to say that I think this will be a good thing. If they don't think so, then I will back off. And I have told my xh that it is his mess, and he has accepted it.