I think it's also really important to think about your needs too in terms of healing from the infidelity. If your W wants to move back in, now is the time to ask for what you need too. Have you revisited the DR content on that in the infidelity chapter?

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus