Bea, I know you know this...but your sons are adults now and they have to determine whether or not they want to re-establish a relationship w/your xh. This is something that they have to work out in their own time and if your xh is sincere in doing so, he will have to show them that he is more than willing to do whatever it takes to make it work. After all, they all aren't little kiddies at the playground fighting over a ball that they all want to play with.
Well, we shall see what transpires w/him. Will he continue to send crazy emails or will he actually grow up and be the man he is suppose to be? That's the $100 question of the day.
MLC does take a toll on them and I'm not surprised to read how he looks. Life isn't too kind to them when they are out there acting like kids at their age!
Bea, be very careful in what you are willing to do to help him. You can't fix the mess he created...he has to do that himself or else he will never accept responsibility for what he's done, nor will he learn to be accountable. If he truly wants to reconcile w/his sons, he will find a way.
Is he waking up? I would say he's still baking after he made the comment about ending the marriage...but time will tell. Until then, be careful in attempting to fix things for him.
