Ontheup, I registered with si. I only stalked the site in the early days after D-day. Have not been back there in a long time. I was hoping I could find the post you mentioned. They don't seem to have a search function like DB. I know you can't post links on the board (you could get kicked off because of it). Can you at least describe where you found it? Was it in the general section? Do you know how to search on that site?
" I will be detaching permanently as i'm moving out. I think only then months or more down the road will I know whether i still want to be with this person. I certainly wouldn't want to be with her the way she is and she wouldn't want to be with me the way I have been for the last x years either. We pushed each other away for years to get to this point it isn't going to get resolved over night."
Good luck with the detachment process. Don't let your W turn you into someone you don't want to be. Always take the high ground.
