Just got back from swimming with S1 - he was exceptionally cute and thats not just parental bias talking, in my entirely biased opinion.
swimming means two interactions with W (first since last sunday) so just kind of logging them.
1) W drops S1 at my house really short, wife wouldnt come even through the front door but thats fine as she had to get to swimming with D3. basic hello from me to the kids, she was very business like but not cold or unpleasant. I gave her a couple of bits of hers I'd found and that was it. she was reasonably pleasant and even volunteered that PF had stayed over last night. she nearly smiled.
I couldnt help but notice how attractive she is, which was marginally frustrating. (equally noticed she was wearing all new clothes)
2) I drop S1 at Ws house. I did go through the front door but no further, but wasnt exactly welcomed. wife had a 'will not engage' attitude. so not cross and angry but wouldnt engage and was very much herding me back out again in body language and her limited words. I didnt go immediately because i wanted a 2 minute hug and chat with D3.
D3 asked me to stay and told me she missed me. before i could say anything W had said 'Daddy is going because he has things to do'. I said 'i miss you too D3, but i'll see you on tuesday'
got handed some of my post which has been redirected to Ws house (we have the same initials) so this redirection is a right pain. I mentioned that it had been lodged as a formal dispute and offered to draft the letter we both need to sign to resolve it. W responded with a 'no you dont, i know what i need to do' (then calling to kids without pausing) 'Daddys going now'
so i dont know if there was anger, indifference or something else, but there was certainly no warmth and lots of impatience for me to go. to my mind it was a very definite change in tone between the two encounters.
not sure if anyone around here has noticed but our situations blow. i remember the days when i just chatted and it was fun.
before you worry, im not feeling too down or getting into some rumination cycle just logging and trying to assess and understand.
now i'm off to get some glue so that i can make papier mache stuff with the kids on wednesday.
hope you are all having pleasant weekends.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
