Oh, Susana! (3)

[susana4]

Hi Susana

Glad you had a reasonable day, and hope you enjoy the maze today. I was thinking about your sitch last night, and your H's difficult childhood.

I wonder with the alcohol use and pulling away from the M - whether he is in some 'crisis' about the childhood issues - and that they are 'knocking on his door' wanting to be dealt with? Of course, this wouldn't be something he is likely to want to hear from you...

It's just a theory, and feel free to ignore - but I'm reading Men in Midlide Crisis at the moment, and some of the stuff resonated with me in respect of your H - 'medicating' and pulling away from others etc...

Enjoy yourselves at the Maze if you go today! And if you anticipate some pullback, just be very relaxed yourself about it - zigzags are such a feature of these sitches :-)

Hi Toots,
I think it definitely could be. In the first week after BD, when I was still reeling, I kept thinking it was like he was going through a crisis, and several of my friend suggested it too - except he's too young for a MLC.

He has never dealt with his childhood issues as far as I'm aware and is quite resistant to talking about his childhood (he told me about it, but glossed over it in MC, and I don't know if he talks to anyone else about it). When I have brought it up in the past he always says "oh it didn't affect me."

But I am quite certain that the anger and fear and sadness it all built up in him somewhere...

Is the book a good read? Wondering if it would be worth buying - I've got a big reading list atm though!

Thanks - heading off to the maze in a little bit! Ha, I love what you said about the zigzags - so true!