Tootling along.

[Sotto]

Hi all - thanks for stopping by - Valentine Buddies!

Complex, I think it happened to me through reading - both forums and books, where I realised that nothing was going to resolve any time soon. And I truly accepted that we both had a journey to take.

In the early days I read and read, planned our convos, took notes, looked for the thing that was going to turn everything around. And then - poof - I just realised that things need to run their course and I let go. In the background, I had also been rebuilding my life here, so that also gives a shift of focus away from the marital sitch.

Now, whilst I still love my H, I realise that it probably wouldn't be a good thing for us to get back together right now - and possibly not ever. Although, I'm sure if he became truly introspective and dug very deep and wanted us to reconcile, that would be what I would want too.

It just all takes time and work, and I think if you have those things - and you are doing the 'right' work, things will shift for you. Thanks for saying you find my advice calming - that's very kind....I don't always feel calm inside! Tx