Claire, so so sorry to hear about your FIL. I know you will figure out the right thing to do around your H right now during such a difficult time. I would just let him know you're here if he needs anything and I think in this situation, a hug would be appropriate. Hang in there! Keeping your family in my prayers right now.
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out