There is a great deal of love and support for you out here because we see who you really are. A setback like last night is just that, a setback with a huge need to refocus what is going on.
Hubby would not have written such a passionate letter to you if there weren't still deep feelings there. You MUST allow him time to come to grips with what happened last night. He is scared sh!tless by the physical actions he made toward you.
From the post, it appears you may have started the physical contact. But either way, SET AN APPOINTMENT NOW TO TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT THIS!! This is said as forcefully as I can come across.
You need to distance yourself mentally if not physically from hubby right now. But you also must reassure him that you understand his confusion, and desire to step out of the marriage.
Understand this: I don't think anyone who reads that letter believes that he means he really wants out.
As I say to all the newbies, time to relax, breathe and take some time for YOU. With everyone's help out here, we can nurture this relationship back together. You have to decide if you want that. But not today. I want you to get out and do some things for yourself today and not hang around the house.
Dustin is going to do what he thinks is right for him right now. He needs the space as much as you do. Allow him to go into his cave to regroup. This is not a bad thing. He'll come back out when he has understood what brought this about.
You are a very passionate, emotional, outspoken lady. The good side of this is that you get everything out in the open. For some of us, we mull over things before showing the emotions, and especially if they are scary to us we retreat. This is what hubby is doing now.
Quote: I am really hurting right now, and I really feel like I've failed all of you, as well as myself, my son, my husband. and my marriage.
How, special lady, can you fail us. We have asked nothing of you except a willingness to improve, and you have given us all of that plus that buoyant energy to lift us at times.
Please post back soon, and let us know what you are going to do for you today. No pulling the covers over your head!! That's an order ocean dweller!!
