claire7 - I'm sorry about your FIL and also about the difficult situation you're in. I can't imagine the proper way to react when the news broke. I hope you know there was no obvious reaction. Make sure you don't take on you things that are beyond your control and responsibility. Your WAH has chosen to go his own way and he's about to face one of the consequences, that is lacking your support at this crucial moment. It's sad and we should hope that he gets through this life event as well as possible. I'm just saying that you should not feel guilty for the limits in which you can act at the moment.
With regards to your sitch in general, I've not read your entire threads, but it sounds like the D papers are going to go through. Hopefully, you're already past that step in your head, without expectations. In the meantime, there's probably little if anything to gather from his wording, his timing, etc. Think farther in the future.
It sounds like you have your head in the right place about D4. Being a mom is hard now, but that's also why it's so rewarding. Raising a child is a major accomplishment and you're doing it right now.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
