I can fully understand your apprehension with your daughter. My middle daughter was extremely traumatized by her kindergarten teacher because she would not speak at all. In order to get her away from this destructive teacher we had to agree to get her evaluated. They eventually said she was a selective mute. At times we wanted to remove her from school and home school her. It took years of nurturing and support. Years of her never speaking in class. She has come a long way and is now in college. I think if we had home schooled her she would not be where she is now. I think the interaction was important for her development and socialization.
Like you, i did focus on my situation too much. It took its toll on me personally and professionally. I am now having to look for work and I am scared. I hope you will take the advice given here in the best vein it is given. people are concerned and want the best for you.
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