Thanks for responding! When she walked out in 2009, it was without warning, just as now. She said she left because she "needed space from me" and "I was starting too many arguments." I never felt the arguments were frequent or nasty, but her feelings are her feelings. Notice a pattern here?
In 2009, I was, like last year, under tremendous pressure. I went for therapy then and my wife returned after about 1 month. Looking back, I stopped going to therapy too soon.
Great question about my therapist. He is the same one I went to in 2009, and he thinks both times she left were very impulsive actions and unwarranted. Believe me, I have not (either time) held anything back in speaking with him. I have been honest about my part. He feels my wife's depression and low self-esteem play a huge role in this. He has already asked if I could ever trust her again if she did want to reconcile.
I feel I could still trust her, as I am on a medication that really, really helps keep me from getting anxious. After both of these episodes, my therapist and I agree that my wife is hyper-sensitive. If we were to reconcile, I have to remember that and stop the unneeded arguing!!
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
