Mighty, Your EXH is NOT a real man, not anymore. He is a selfish child who is with another selfish child. No real, worthy WOMAN would have that child-man in their life. He said it himself...THEY are only thinking about what THEY want. Neither of them care what is best for your kids (or even their own kid for that matter), what is "right", what is moral...none of that matters to him or HWW.
Real men take care of their responsibilities. They don't "cut and run" when they become "unhappy" with their lives. You deserve better M, you really do. You are holding on to hope that your old H is still in there somewhere. He's not. He's dead and gone. It is time to realize this. I know how hard it is as I have had to do this with my W. Everything I admired about her is gone. The person she has become isn't someone I would ever want in my life if I were to meet them today. Like me, you are holding onto the person he used to be. Time to let go.
I know it hurts. I mourn the loss of the great person my W used to be, the best friend I ever had. I loved her with all my heart and soul and would have done anything for her. I miss her every day. But, she is gone and I must except that and live my life accordingly. Time for you to do the same. It won't be easy (I am still working on it myself) but it just must be done for you to move on with your life. Good luck Mighty. You can do this!
