Thank you Sandi. I can see what you mean that I am defining myself by being loved. I know I need to work on and love myself so that amy relationship whether it be with WAW or not can he healthy and not codependant. Btw my codependant no more book just arrived today. Want to get to it but need to complete DB and DR book first.

Thank you for your insight as I can't seem to see the clear picture sometimes but your input really helps me.

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M: 44 W: 45
Married 26
Together 28
D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7
S: 12/2013, seperate houses
OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him
OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time