I don't want and I'm not ready for another person in my life but is it wrong that I wish I could go to a movie with someone and hold someone's hand? I just miss company and affection. It's hard to go without for so long but I realize this is where I am in life. Maybe just V Day emotions.
No, it is not wrong to desire those things. I do think perhaps you are inflicting yourself by placing too much emphases on the day.
You are defining happiness and your own value of being loved again. You are exchanging one co-dependent R for another one......before it even happens. I think you are a prime candidate for a rebound relationship.
My concern is that if you do enter into another relationship, you will be even more clingy and needy b/c you believe that R defines you.
When I lost my mother recently, it was suggested I have the words inscribed on her headstone "Loving Wife and Mother". I'm not going to have that written, and do you have any idea why? B/c she was so much more than just a wife and mother. It would imply that that was all she was.....or that she was limited to only those two areas. She was a strong and classy lady who lived a full life. Her H and children were incredibly important to her, don't get me wrong, but there was so, so much more that defined her.
My father had passed over 25 yrs before mother died. She never as much as went out to dinner with another man during those 25 yrs. She never felt the need, and just wasn't interested in having a R with a man. And she could have had one easily. She was gorgeous, and a had the personality to match. My parents were very close, and she grieved for my dad. However, she decided she would get up and be busy in living life. Come to think of it, her mother did the exact same thing! I come from a line of strong women, and if my H should go before me, I sure hope I have their spunk.
Sorry for the personal references, but I told you this in hoping you might see what I've tried to tell you. Please don't sell yourself short.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
