Oh, Susana! (3)

[susana4]

OK what I am going to say is NOT really what I would suggest just reviewing your thread as it is pursuing.

Well if he was a WOA guy then thanking him, validating his AOS would be good.
Giving him a hug and thanking him might be good too.

But you may also get rejected with that,
so proceed with caution.

DB101 = do what works 180 what doesnt.

Maybe you just sit back and do nothing with the knowledge that you now have.
Maybe that QT - doesnt bother you as much now.

What do you think?

QT - yes, I think it will bother me less.

I'm halfway through 5LL now and I'm torn between WOA and AOS for my H. Some of his complaints point towards WOA -- that he didn't feel like himself, didn't want to do things that he thought might upset me -- I was criticising instead of using WOA. But his actions point towards AOS.

At any rate, it would be a 180 for me to thank him and validate his AOS. I scored really low on AOS and tbh I never really thought about his AOS until now, so I very rarely ever thanked him.

But you may also get rejected with that,
so proceed with caution.
Maybe, but he did thank me and gave me a hug when he came home last night and saw I did the dishes while he was on his trip. (Which confused me up until we had this discussion on AOS)

But, I will need to be careful not to go too far with it and pursue.