Maybell- I'm sure Betsey will be around soon to weigh in.
Personally - Yes I remember not just good times but great times, lots of them, right up until about the time D3 was born and he started the first affair.
Zew said something a few days ago on my thread that really hit home with me - that he would remarry the person he married in a heartbeat. I'd have to say that's true for me as well.
Am I questioning my judgement - yes, yes I am. I like to think that after this my radar will be a little more finely tuned, but ultimately there aren't any guarantees in life, are there?
By the way - I know your STBX is being a D****e of a dad right now, but that doesn't mean he will be that way forever. He probably won't ever be ideal- but he very well could learn to meet some of their needs. Maybe he'll listen to "Cats in the Cradle" and something will click
