Ha! Job, that made me laugh, and the sob neighbor, he is!
I know, you are right about the withdrawal and addiction. It's really getting to me. And I realize, quite clearly now, that's what is causing me so much damage.
I think he will go back to hww's soon (moving). I'm pretty sure. It's only been of late that he has begun staying there. I guess he is seeing how it will play out with the kids. But, like he said, "I don't know what I'm doing."
And, I do think right now, he is trying to get under my skin. For sure. And, I wonder if he's staying there to check on me. I hadn't really thought that... but, now that you mention it. When he did come back around, it was when I was really starting to move on. And he did mention to me that he thought I was seeing someone, or had been. (But I honestly doubt he is keeping a concerned eye) I don't know if that has anything to do with anything, but I do think he is seriously lost and confused- he even says to. And, he is going to the only place which will allow his crap.
So, there's a combo-could be could be a little of each, could be one, could be none... who knows.
But, I'm just up and down with it. I think tomorrow I am going to go to my parents. I may stay the night. My brother invited us to do something. I love my brother to death. We are close, but honestly, his wife is so overbearing. She has a very dominant personality, and these days she [censored] the life out of me. I just don't have the energy for her. Usually, I just tell her to stfu and she does, but I just cant even deal with it. It's not fun.
Whew... got that off my chest.
Thanks, job. I think now, realizing the toll it is taking on me having him next door, I can do things to address it.
Oh, and yeah, I'm staying mum about the whole thing. I'm not saying a word or giving any indication that any of it bothers me.
My plan is this: Ignore any shenanigans, which includes texts or contact that don't require a response. Necessary responses I will just stick to business. When I see him, like at games, I will just say hi and carry on about my business... far away.
And, if for some reason... If I have to communicate with him... I will remain in control and stfu. I don't want him to think he owns any space in my head.
