I also just called and left a message for the lawyer recommended to me by my counselor. I won't hear back from her until Monday but it's a step in the right direction. I also deactivated my Facebook account. I don't need the pain or distraction and i have my own feelings about how healthy or unhealthy fb is in people's relationships. Wish I lived in the pre-technology years when people didn't have the easy outs and family seemed to hold more value.
M: 44 W: 45 Married 26 Together 28 D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7 S: 12/2013, seperate houses OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time