fyi, I am not on here NEAR as much on the weekends as I am during business hours, but I will try to check in from my phone as much as I can as I know you're at a critical point here.
Remember, YOU DON'T HAVE TO DECIDE ANYTHING TODAY. Or tonite. Or this weekend. OK? ALL OF THIS WILL STILL BE THERE next week, and NOTHING you can do will either SCREW UP or automatically FIX your marriage this weekend. These things tend to move slowly.
Also, you DON'T have to have a response for everything she asks you. You can ignore her if it's a text or a phone call, and in person you can always say "I'm not sure how I feel about that. I'll have to think about that and get back to you" and such. Or simply "Yes, I hear you. I understand what you're saying."
I personally found a lot of comfort in the thought that DBing wasn't really all that FRAGILE. There is room for error (so long as you don't keep making the SAME mistakes over and over again), and you have to play the long game.
