A lovely example of how excruciatingly difficult this is at times...just got off the phone with H - we needed to talk about who was going to pay the power bill, or it was going to be disconnected. I have been telling him this for a week and a half. I got paid an hour ago.

He asks me if I have called the power company to tell them we are paying, and I said that I didn't hae the account number at work, and I wasn't listed on the account, so HE would have to call. He went crazy on me! Saying "we're not going to have power until Monday, they probably already turned it off, blah, blah, blah."

Then he has this lovely way of making these situations all my fault, and making me feel bad because I have to ask him for money - or maybe I am just projecting my own distress at not being completely financially independent. Anyway, this money thing is really crappy right now.

It IS okay for me to expect him to share in these expenses, isn't it? Or should I just struggle and buy less food until he has officially been there at the house a month? He has talked about the electric bill for the house as MY power bill, so I don't know if he is resentful at the responsibility or not. I don't know how to handle this and get back to the growing harmony we had!
Myrrh

One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.