Kieran .... For the love of all that is good .. Listen to Starsky and follow it to a T man
I just read your sitch ... Just a few things for you to think about as you are regaining some of the power in your relationship as its clear she had cake, ate it .. and was giving you the neener neeener the entire time.
So she 'says' she ended the 3 year A .... Remember ... believe none of what they say and only 50% of what they do here. Also ... IF .... and I say IF she ended it there is going to be that drug withdrawl phase .... like it was said before .. you have the heavy hitters here and looks like things are moving FAST in your situation ... hang in there, be strong .. and do not bend one bit ..... no one wants a wet noodle as a spouse.