I had a really tough time with the his and mine concept too. My parents have had a joint account for a zillion years, and I grew up thinking that way. So did Mr. W.
So did me and Mr. W.--until we separated.
Now that we've done it, I don't know if I want to go back to the old way. If we get the chance to reconcile, we will go back to something we did when we first got married and were living independently: keep our checking accounts and put each other as co-signer.
I know plenty of happily married people who were able to get over the hurdle without incident. In fact, it makes all of them feel like they're contributing and not in a dominant or subordinate position in the marriage.
Tomorrow we'll chat and I have another book suggestion for you. In fact, it's the bad book I've posted about so you won't have to spend the money... I'll send it to you as a loaner (and you won't get the glares from the female librarians for asking for it either).
Although I really took issue with the overall message, there were some really good underlying ones. In fact, the turning point for me (and when I started to post here) occurred after I read it and wept like a baby.
I think it might give you some help with #7.
Hugs and thanks for your support today.
Bets
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
