Gogofo - LRT letter - planning a new beginning

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I went through 13 weeks of in house seperation and going dark is extremely difficult. Some keys for me: Remember that going dark is a state of mind. It is detaching. Detaching while in the same home takes a tremendous amount of will power. You constantly have to be aware of your reactions, feelings and emotions. Detaching means that what she does or says has very little effect on you. For example: Normally she cooks for you every day. One day she cooks for everyone except you. Being detached means you do not feel hurt by this. Being detached means you see that there is no food for you, so you go prepare your own meal. Another example of being detached: In my sitch I knew I was getting better at being detached when I stopped being upset when my WAW did not respond to my TM.

Getting out and GAL is crucial for you. The more you GAL the easier it is to detach. The more detached you get the easier it becomes to GAL.

Hang in there. In house separation is NOT an easy thing.