@Starsky309: I do appreciate the advice. And I really am trying to follow it. Part of the problem is that I haven't even had a chance to read the books yet, so I feel like I'm flying blind here. I'm a pretty conciliatory guy by nature, so a lot of this stuff feels very counter-intuitive.
I hear what you say about me giving her the idea she can still have her cake and eat it too. I will be toning down the pleasantries and upping the unavailability.
I'm confident you can probably do that, tactically. I guess I'm a little concerned (alarmed?) that it WASN'T what your gut was feeling anyway. Normally, when someone faces what you just faced, we're trying to talk them DOWN off the ledge from being TOO angry . . . with you, I feel like you're just so nonchalant about the nature of the threat your marriage is facing right now.
