The foot is a lot better now, thank you for asking. I tried to run on it and that didnt go well but i can do yoga and the like without too much discomfort. I'm intrigued by my variable flexibility - some is really good but apparently i've got no elasticity in my hamstrings and no strength in my abs (though the beginnings of a six pack).
I'm going to attempt to play squash again next week as that is on the toes and feels lighter footed compared to jogging. Kick boxing is still a ways off.
I say passive as I dont feel like I did anything since BD that truly gave me a better chance of saving my marriage, and for the most part I feel like I just rolled over and let it happen with some shameful craziness thrown in for good measure.
I'm clearer about what needed to be different prior to BD so I know for the future, but in truth I wont really now how embedded this is until its tested by a meaningful relationship.
The whole thing about dating is just swirling around as part of the questioning of when do I truly accept wife is gone for good, what does that look like for me and what do I then do differently?
Right now I just feel stuck, very clearly unwanted by wife but not clear what to do instead. my ego also doesnt like this feeling at all. I want to get to the position where I'm not futilly waiting and I'm not being held back by fear.
My social circle is amazing but small (and all couples) and there is limited opportunity to meet new people through work. So i need to give some more thought to what really getting a new life looks like rather than do as i have been which is taking care of myself and keeping busy.
Suggestions welcome
For a start I needd a plan for this weekend beyond catching up on sleep
Last edited by jim0987; 02/13/1504:57 PM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
