Well...how do I deal with W leaving the house to go somewhere (at night). She doesn't look like 1000$ but hair is done, makeup on, which a while ago wasn't that usual.
So when she just left I gave her a look and said have fun, but more in a "where are you going?" tone... Then she explained to me where she is actually going (true or not). Old work friend in town, few ppl going. Blabla. This sht makes me mad, true or not. I obviously have trust and controlling issues still. Should I rather be uplifting and say have fun? Say nothing? Or let her know I don't agree with what she's doing (which is an assumption, and will make her mad if I'm wrong)? And does it make sense to apologize for making her justify herself?
I appreciate your input on this...Starsky and others
In my sitch, I looked at her and said "I certainly hope you're not going out to meet your boyfriend (this was on the 4th of July, after taking our boys for fireworks... a family tradition was always to come home afterwards and shoot off our own together as a family, but she was getting dressed to blow this off and head out); that would be really disrespectful to me and the boys." She told me she was going to a party, and he would NOT be there, and I said "I wish I could believe that. Please be safe."
But I ONLY did that because my intel told me that she WAS, in fact, meeting her OM. I would never recommend "flying blind" on a statement like that, as you'd look like a controlling fool if you were wrong.
Starsky
After that did you care if she participated in events with you or not?
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