The Owl and the Pussycat

[Lyrael]

Well, I swallowed my H whole tonight, for a few reasons.

Remember the e-bay auction for the totalled sports car that he "lost by one bid"? Well, he lied about that. How did I find out? Well, I called his shop today and he told me to hold on while he finished a piercing. He finished it and forgot that was on the phone, and left it sitting on the counter on. So I heard him tell the customer he wasn't going to be in at all tomorrow (hmm, he didn't say anything to me!) - this from the guy who is completely unable to take a day or even a couple hours off to do ANYTHING with me. Then I heard him tell someone in the shop that he needed to use their trailer, and then he said something about $500 dollars. Well, I sat and waited for ten minutes for him to remember I was on the phone, and by then I was absolutely LIVID. So I drove at breakneck speed to his shop, walked in (only "hangout people" were there, no customers) and I slammed the hell out of the door.
The first words he said were, "Oh, [censored]..." I had him walk outside with me, and I told him that I knew he had lied, I knew he was going to go to Cleveland, OH tomorrow, without telling me, obviously without asking me to come along, and then he has the nerve to say that he lied to me because he wanted to SURPRISE ME. With a car I never wanted and expressed huge reservations about.

My H and I have a combined income of about $900 in a good month. This car cost $2250, and apparently his business partner is paying for it, so now he owes him for it.

I ate him for breakfast, lunch, and dinner - we have an overdue powerbill, we need a new washer, and we need to do something about our enormous pile of debt. AND HE IS BUYING HIMSELF NEW TOYS, AND LYING ABOUT IT. My last purchase for myself was a keychain that cost $1.50. He swears that if he can't come up with the money, Joe will just sell the car to someone else, but wtf - he lied before. AND - he told me about a month ago that he was getting a third EQ account for his business partner, and HE (the business partner) would pay for it. That, also, was a lie - it's on his (our) credit card. I didn't even ask him about that! He volunteered the informations, and it was A TOTAL LIE.

Not only do I want to divorce the stupid mfer (sorry, I am really mad), I kind of want to break both his knees!
I feel EXTREMELY taken advantage of - I am the only one who worries about the bills (or I feel like it).

Mer, you have any input? I know your H occasionally launches himself into outer space and does weird things a bit like this. What's your take? DO I grit my teeth and keep smiling? Do I say "I am sorry for how I handled this situation. I think this car is a really bad idea for us right now, and I am extremely hurt and upset that you lied. I needed to share my feelings about that with you, and I would really appreciate it if you would at least give me a heads-up when you make a major purchase."
What do you guys think? Anyone? Anyone?

Grrrr,
Myrrh