The last few nights have been OK. She's not emotionally crashing, at least. She's been somewhat upbeat and I've been making sure I stay that way. She's not particularly warm, either. She doesn't recoil when I touch her but doesn't initiate affection. Maybe it's my perception. If I had to make a comparison, it's about like it was in the last few months leading up to BD, before I knew exactly how off things were. We have not had an R talk in a couple of nights.
I'm not about to ask her anything; I learned my lesson on that. I'm trying to thread the needle between giving her space and not engaging with her enough. I don't want her to feel like we're going back to the old way we used to bury our heads in our computers and ignore each other, but I don't want to smother her either. I'm just trying to figure out the best way to work on that love tank.
She has been 60 days post NC with OM. From everything I can tell she has stuck to that. I know he's coming back to town in late March. I don't think she even knows that yet. I can see the calendar of his contact here at my company.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
