I think the place to aim for is one where your W tells you she's going out, but you barely wonder where she's going or who with. Maybe that's because you have a nice GAL plan yourself. Or maybe you have just got yourself to a place where you accept the situation.
Acceptance is where you truly accept - she has checked out of our M, she is wayward, there's an OP involved, she may or may not be lying today - all brutal reality - but I'm ok....now, what lovely things do I plan to do next with my life.
Please don't think I'm downplaying the anguish here - I'm just saying that the anguish doesn't help you and it doesn't help your aim of restoring your M either. So, if you can find a way to process and keep moving forwards, that's the best plan.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
