Following along. Still catching up on your sitch but wanted to say that all I've read so far of your story is very typical.

As far as your feelings towards wife, you will cycle through loving her, being obsessed., being indifferent, and even Maybe hating her? Its normal during this traumatic experience.

I'll be reading along until I fully understand your situation.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017