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I'm back! It has been over a year now and I thought I would come back to chat with all of my friends and continue to get advice from all the good people on here..

So... firstly wife and I are still together and going strong. It has been about 14 months since my sitch took a turn for the better and I owe it all to you guys.

Sorry if wasn't updating and I now see I kind of owed it to you all to keep you in the loop. But honestly the last handful of comments here (read the last responses to my last comment a year ago on this thread) were just too much. I couldn't take it. Every few hours I'd check my thread and it seems the comments were getting more and more negative and each poster was feeding off the negative comments of the one before. I see now that this was not.intentional but that is how I felt at the time.

My wife and I have come a long way but things are stalled a little.right now. She's in IC and her therapist has really been digging in and has uncovered a lot of old baggage that wife has from her childhood. Seems she was carrying it all around with her.

I'm in a much better place now, and more able to be positive and be able to analyze thibgs without the anger and resentment that I was carrying. So I think we are heading in the right direction now.

I ma t start a new thread to fill you all in and get everyone up to speed so I can ask questions and get some direction.

Thank you all again and I look forward to chatting and catching up with all of you!