It sounds as if you and your wife are making wonderful progress in your relationship. Congratulations!
Have you made plans for Valentines Days yet?
If not may I make a suggestion?
There is a movie called "Old Fashioned." It is playing in select theaters and opens tomorrow. It is a movie about dating and romance. It is "G" rated so you could take your wife and the girls.
This might provide a non-threatening romantic evening and reintroduce your wife back into the world of your family and your family life.
And let's be honest...young girls love romantic movies. Don't underestimate the power of little girls with their mother as they watch a romantic movie.
If the movie isn't an option I still recommend something that includes the girls. You and your wife are in an awkward place right now and including the girls bridges the awkward gap. It allows you to do something without making everyone uncomfortable. And make no mistake--your wife expects something on Valentines Day.
By the way, if you haven't done so: Tell your wife you will be acknowledging Valentines Day. Don't wait to "surprise" her.
By this I mean, she should know that you plan to acknowledge Valentines Day. She may not know how you plan to acknowledge it...but she should know you will be acknowledging it.
It's okay to surprise your wife on Valentines Day. Women love surprises. But surprising her on Valentines Day is different than making her wonder if you are going to acknowledge the Day.
So, just in case you haven't said anything yet please make sure you say something such as, "I'm looking forward to Valentines Day." or "Do you have plans on Valentines Day?' or something so she has permission to be vulnerable on Valentines Day.
And, as always, I think you are doing really great.
