The Owl and the Pussycat

[Lyrael]

The past happenings in the shop are just that, according to you, in the past. They no longer happen and it seems to me that you have built your trust back up in your H.

My H and I have both worked to be able to trust each other again. It has been a long, difficult, and delicate process.

I do not know what you have talked to your H about today, but I hope you had your best DB face on when you did.

I think I did okay. He has a case of that nasty flu I had earlier this week, and is really feeling bad. I threw lots of sympathy his way, and he knows absolutely NOTHING of how scared/freaked out I got. That's quite a switch for me, because I would usually blast whatever emotion I was feeling at him in whatever way I felt like at the time.

You mentioned that they were THINKING about hiring this girl. Her age may be in question here and I don't know what the child labor laws are in your neck of the woods, but I would politely tell H to investigate this. Not for the sake of what happened in the PAST, but for the sake of their business. This could really damage his business.

I actually think I expressed my concerns about this pretty well. My H tends to not say much to me (like "Oh, Myrrh, you are so wise and RIGHT. What was I thinking?" Okay, maybe that's a little unrealistic) but I know he listens, and will think about what I said as long as I don't start nagging at him about it.

I have often told people on the BB here that Fear of theunknown will kill you. This seems to be the case here Myrrh, except you are worrying about something that hasn't happened yet. I undertsand that the thought of this happening may disturb you, but that's what they are right now, thoughts, and thoughts can be eliminated from your mind.

That's very true. This whole stupid thing hasn't even happened yet, and my H hasn't even met this girl yet. Soooo - I think I have said all I need to say for now. I will wait for something to actually happen before say anything else.

Concentrating on negative "what ifs" is disasterous. What ifs are bad in themselves.

And I have the world's most creative imagination.


This is probably what he was looking for when he told you. Instead of you finding out from someone else, he put his trust in you to tell you and give him feedback. This is what it sounds like to me.

Geez, I hope I haven't screwed up - I didn't yell or anything. I was just kind of thrown for a loop when he told me. Like i said, I think I am just going to leave it alone for right now.


I hope i helped somewhat Myrrh. Go do something to help get the negative thoughts out of your head.

Cooking, cleaning, toddler-wrangling, my usual routine should work!

Go to seattle, UDs and my threads lately. there are some gut busting laughs in there.

What would I do without you guys?

Thanks again!
Myrrh

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