Not sure what to do

[Train]

Fwiw:

Wonka mentioned this:
Starsky, I forgot your bit about "if you end the A, I'm here and willing to work with you......." script. Can you please help out here as my mind blanked out?

And Starsky replied:
"However, if you will end your affair -- and I mean absolutely no-contact, you send a letter and agree to be fully transparent with me -- and come back and work on the marriage with me for some set period of time, unencumbered by a third party. Let's say 6 months, or a year" ... (and don't make this any LESS than six months) . . . "and then it doesn't work out, for either one of us? Then I think I could not only still be your friend if we divorced, but probably pretty good friends going forward, as at least I'll know we tried."

Though I can't speak for either of them, I THINK Wonka was referring to a line Starsky often advises that goes something like this:

"If you completely end your A and choose to return to our M, I think you'll find that I'm ready and willing to work on any and all issues that led to the breakdown of our M."