My waking nightmare

[Lorelai]

Help!!! H is here with the kids. I was out working but my cell phone died and I didn't have my charger so I came home to make a quick call for work. Before I left the house today I left two boxes of Valentine's Day cards that S4 has to sign for a preschool party tomorrow. I very gently said he might want to do that cards with S4 while D23mos was napping because I let her look at one or two of them yesterday and (I know, I should have had S4 work on them yesterday and I should not have let my toddler daughter see the cards).
Anyway, D23mos is for some reason OBSESSED with these Valentine's Day cards, so I had to hide them from her yesterday so they wouldn't get messed up before S4 took them to school. So that's why I asked H to just do them while she napped. I come home, D23mos is up from her nap, S4 is watching TV and H is like "Let me get out the cards." And D23mos immediately starts screaming. I go into the bedroom to make my call and overhear H say "Sorry, D23mos, SOMEBODY let you play with the cards yesterday and that's why you're interested in them."
Then he busted into the bedroom where I was on the phone with a screaming D23mos in his arms and asks why I let her play with the cards. I was literally in the middle of a work call, and my work is more important than ever right now because H has decided to walk out and start planning a D and I have to find a full-time job, which I would do either way, but I'm under way more pressure than I would be if I weren't getting a D.
He is not doing any work on himself at all. Even if he wanted to R I wouldn't unless he was willing to look inward and make some serious changes. The old me would have yelled back at H, Well, why didn't you do the cards while D23 mos was napping?! But I'm keeping my mouth shut—something I should have done a lot more of during my M.